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Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu!

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

1. Always speak the truth. Never hesitate in speaking the truth even at the greatest risk.

2. Speak only when you must, and always talk with a purpose. Too much talk and useless conversation betrays a lack of seriousness. Your are accountable before Allah for every word you utter. The Angel of Allah records. "A supervisor remains vigilant to preserve on record every speech that is uttered by his tongue."

3. Always speak politely. Wear a smile on your face and a sweet tone in your speech. Always speak in a moderate voice. Do not keep your voice so low as to be inaudible to the addressee, nor raise it so loud that the addressee might be over-awed by your voice. Allah affirms: "Surely! the harshest of all the voices is the voice of the ass." [31 : 19]

4. Do not spoil your tongue with dirty talk. Do not speak ill of others. Never indulge in backbiting. Do not complain against others. Never indulge in mimicking others to ridicule them. Do not make false promises. Never laugh at others, nor boast of your own superiority or indulge in self praise. Never get unreasonable and rash in conversation. Do not pass remarks by a disgraceful name. Avoid swearing frequently.

5. Always say what is just and fair regardless of any loss of yourself, your friend or relative. "And when you say something, speak what is just even if you are talking about your relative."

6. Be soft-spoken, reasonable and sympathetic in your conversation. Do not utter sharp, harsh and teasing remarks.

7. When women happen to talk with men, they should speak in a clear, straight, and rough manner. They ought not speak in delicate, sweet tone lest the listener should entertain any foul expectation.

8. If the impudent with to entangle you in dialogue or altercation offer them 'Salaam' politely and leave them. Those who indulge in loose talk and absurd conversation are the worst lot of the Ummah.

9. Keep in view the mental level and outlook of them man you are talking to so as to make him understand. If the addressee cannot hear or is unable to catch your meaning, repeat what you have said before without any resentment.

10. Always be brief and to the point in your talk. It is unfair to prolong discussion without rhyme or reason.

11. When you wish to explain the tenets of Al-Islam want to speak on the teachings of Al-Islam be simple and clear and speak in a passionate and heart-warming style. To seek reputation through oratory, to try to impress people with flowery language, to seek popularity among people, to adopt a proud and haughty mein or to deliver speeches only for the sake of fun and recreation --all these are the worst habits that corrupt the man to the core of his heart.

12. Never indulge in flattery, or ingratiate with anybody. Always mind your honour and respect and avoid anything below your dignity.

13. Do not interrupt and interfere in others' conversation without their permission, nor intercept others conversation in order to say something yourself. If, however, you must speak, do so with the permission of the other.

14. Speak slowly in a proper and dignified manner. Do not speak in a hurried manner nor indulge in fun and jokes all the time as it degrades you in the eyes of others.

15. If somebody puts a question to you, listen carefully to him and make an answer after careful thought. It is simply foolish to answer the questions without due consideration. If the questions are being put to somebody else, do not be officious as to give answers yourself.

16. When someone is narrating something, do not say "we know already." May be he reveals something new and impresses you by his sincerity and piety.

17. When you talk to someone, give due regard to his age, status, and his relationship to you. Do not talk with your parents, teachers, and elders in a manner in which you would talk with your friends. Likewise, when you are talking to youngsters, speak with affection and elderly dignity.

18. While engaged in conversation, do not point out towards any one lest he should conceive any misunderstanding or suspicion. Abstain from eavesdropping on others.

19. Listen more and talk less. Do not reveal your secrets to others. Once you disclose a secret to someone, never expect it to remain a secret any more.

Ayyub: An Example of Faith and Patience

The story of Ayub (Job) gives consolation to all those who are ill or deprived of wealth or children.

The angels were discussing the conditions of mankind, their obedience anddisobedience. One of them said that Ayub was the best man on earth. He was an obedient believer, always praying to Allah. Allah blessed Ayub to be wealthy for eighty years. During this time he never forgot to worship or thank Allah. He shared his wealth with the poor and clothed the naked. 

Satan could not believe that there was a servant as sincere as Ayub. Satan thought that his wealth was the reason for his sincerity, so he asked Allah for power to take away Ayub's wealth with the intentions to mislead him. He reacted to his lost by saying that the wealth belongs to Allah and I thank him for what he has granted me and I thank .him for what he has taken. He then kneeled down in prayer. This made Satan angry. 

Satan tried twice to mislead Ayub after losing his wealth by asking Allah for power to take away his children and health. Allah (swt) said I will give you power over his body, but I warn you against approaching his soul, tongue, and heart, because in them lies the secret of Faith. Ayub acted in the same manner as when his wealth was taken away from him. 

Satan realized that he couldn't misguide Ayub, so he went to his wife to mislead her, by reminding her of their previous life style. Satan was successful in misleading his wife. This led to her complaining to Ayub about their present state. This caused Ayub to become upset with her and he vowed that he would beat her 100 times if Allah gave him back his health.

Satan was not successful in misguiding Ayub. Allah then restored him with all that he had lost. Ayub now had to fulfill his vow of striking his wife. 

Allah ordered him to strike his wife once with a 100 pieces of good smelling grass, out of mercy for her. Indeed Allah is the most merciful.

The story of Ayub should be a constant reminder for us all. We should read this story often just to remind ourselves. Many of us complain about the little things in life. Allah tested Ayub in ways that we can really relate to. His faith and patience is something that we as true believing Muslims should try and implement in our lives, when Allah tests us in these situations. In the Quraan Allah says,

"Truly! We found him patient. How excellent (a) slave! Verily, he was ever oft returning in repentance (to us)." [Quran:38:4].

During these times we must remember Allah more, pray harder, and be more thankful instead of being dissatisfied with our condition. We should praise and thank Allah for every condition that he tests us with. As we know these are the times when Satan tries to work on us the most by playing with our minds, emotions, and weaknesses. Allah would never forget to reward a servant for such a great task. 

"And (remember) Ayub when he cried to his Lord: Verily, distress has seized me and you are the Most Merciful of all who show mercy." [Quraan:21:83] 

"So We answered his call, and We removed the distress that was on him, and We restored his family to him (that he had lost), and the like thereof along with them, as a mercy from Ourselves and a Reminder for all those who worship us." [Quraan:21:84]

May Allah give us the faith and the patience when we are tested. Ameen.

Source :Islam awakening.com

Seventeen benefits of tribulation

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Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu!

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Excerpted from Shaykh Hamza Yusuf's Lecture 

1. You realize the power of Lordship over you 

2. You realize your abject servanthood and your complete state of resignation and brokenness before the Will & Power of Allah 

3. Sincerity to Allah because you have no place of return in putting off or defending against the calamities except to Him 

4. You return to Allah and are suddenly fervent in your desire of your Lord 

5. It leads to a humbled state before Allah and more prayers through which you’re calling on Allah 

6. You’re forbearing towards the one who has afflicted you (you gain the ability to show forbearance) 

7. You get to forgive someone (“and Allah loves those who pardon others”). It is the greatest forgiveness when you forgive people who have caused you great calamities 

8. You are patient during the tribulation (“and Allah is with the patient ones”) 

9. You can become happy about what’s happening because you’re thinking about all these benefits 

10. You can be grateful for the tribulation because of the rewards gained from it 

11. The purification that these calamities have from your wrongs and your sins (ex: a believer is rewarded for any pain he experiences, even the prick of a thorn) 

12. The compassion that Allah enables you to show to others in tribulation and the ability to help them 

13. They give you the Blessing of having the true knowledge of the extent of well-being and what it is 

14. Allah has prepared Rewards for the calamities dependent on how you dealt with them 

15. What is hidden inside the Blessings of the folds of these calamities (ex: Allah may love a thing you hate and may hate a thing you love) 

16. They prevent you from arrogance, evil, pride, and tyranny 

17. Contentment

Repentance

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Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu!

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

All praise is for Allah; we praise Him, seek His aid and forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allah from the evil of our souls and from the wickedness of our actions. 

Whosoever Allaah guides, then none can misguide him and whosoever Allaah misguides, then none can guide him

Excerpts from: Nida al Mu'minin fi'i Quran al Mubin The Call to the Believers in the Clear Quran, by Shaikh Ahmad Fathu'llah Jami

O you who truly believe,

Turn to Allah in repentance-

In sincere repentance! (tawbatan nasuha)

It may be that your Lord will acquit you

Of your evil deeds,

And will admit you into Gardens

Underneath which rivers flow,

On the day when Allah will not abase the Prophet

And those who believe with him.

Their light will run before them

And on their right hands.

They will say: “Our Lord,

Perfect our light for us, and forgive us!

You are surely capable of all things”. (66:8)

According to Umar ibn al-khattab, Ubayy ibn ka’b and Mu’adh (May Allah be pleased with them): “ When repentance is nasuh, it means that one repents and does not return to the sin, just as milk does not return to the udder”

According to al-Kalbi: “ It means that the penitent seeks forgiveness with his tongue, feels remorse in his heart, and keeps his physical body under control.”

According to Muhammad ibn-al Qurtubi: “Sincere repentance [tawba nasuh] consists of four ingredients:

seeking forgiveness with the tongue,

physical abstinence,

inner commitment to refraining from repletion and

avoiding the misconduct of one’s bretheren.”

According to religious scholars. It is not permissible to delay repentance, whether the offence is minor or major.

If the offence in matter between the servant and Allah, and does not involve any human right, three conditions must be fulfilled by the penitent:

he must refrain from the sinful act of disobedience

he must feel remorse for what he has committed

he must e determined never to repeat it.

If all these conditions are fulfilled, his repentance is sincere [nasuh], but if any one if them is omitted, his repentance is invalid. If the offence involves a human right, the condition of repentance are four in number, these same three plus a fourth:

he must acquit himself of what he owes to the victim. If the offence involves money and the like he must return it to the owner. If it incurs a legal penalty, fir qadhf [false accusation of sexual misconduct] or the like, he must submit himself to retribution by the victim, or else seek his pardon. If it is a case of backbiting he must ask him to overlook it.

It is necessary for the servant to repent all the sins he has committer. If he repents one of them , his repentance of that particular sin is valid, and he remains responsible for those he has not repented. This is the doctrine of the people of the sunnah.

The necessity of repentance is demonstrated by evidence from the Book, the sunnah and the consensus of Community.

As reported by Muslim, on the authority of al-Agharr ibn Yasar al-Mazani, Allah’s messenger (SAW) once said :O people, repent to Allah, for I repent a hundred times each day.

As reported by al-Bukhari, it was Abu Huraira (RA)who said: “once I heard Allah’s messenger (SAW) say: By Allah, I seek Allah’s forgiveness and I repent to Him more than seventy times each day.”

According to a generally accepted report from Anas ibn Malik (RA) Allah’s messenger also said:For Allah, delight in the repentance of His servant is greater than the joy experience by one of you, when he comes across his camel after losing it in a desert land.

As reported by Abu Musa al- Ashari the prophet (SAW) once said:

Allah extends His hand by night, to invite the evildoer of the day to repent, and He extends His Hand by day. To invite the evildoer of the night to repent, until the sun rises from its setting.

(That is to say: He extends His power and His mercy because he totally exempt from physical limbs and organs.)

As reported by Abdullah ibn Umar (RA), the prophet (SAW) once said:

Allah accepts the servant’s repentance, provided he is not gargling his last breath.

There are several degrees of repentance, and one of the best accounts of them occurs in the report from Ali (RA), who heard an arab nomad say: 

“O Allah I beg your forgiveness and I repent to you.” 

Ali said: “O you there slickness of the tongue in repentance is the repentance of the liars!” 

The arab nomad then asked: “And what is repentance?” 

Ali replied: “it includes six things: 

remorse for sins committed in the past.

renewed performance of obligatory religious duties [faraid].

providing compensation for acts of criminal injustice.

seeking pardon from adversaries.

resolving never to repeat the offence.

dissolving your lower self in worshipful obedience to Allah, just as you caused it to grow in sinful disobedience, 

and making it taste the bitterness of obedience, just as you let it taste the sweetness of sinful acts of disobedience, until it comes to enjoy the sweetness and flavors of worshipful obedience.”

Allah has explained the value of repentance, in saying:

It may be that your Lord will acquit you

Of your evil deeds,

And will admit you into Gardens

Underneath which rivers flow, (66:8)

This means it has been said that Allah will indeed do that, but the promise is expressed in the form of encouraging expectation, in the style of the kings, for they used to say when they intended to do something: “Perhaps we shall do such and such”.

The implication is that it is a glorious favor from Him, that repentance is not necessarily accepted by Him, and that the servant must be poised between fear and hope, even if he goes to extreme lengths in performing the obligations of worshipful service. The Quranic verse indicates that acceptance of repentance cannot be taken for granted, because expiation comes after acceptance.

Imam Nawawi said: “According to the people of the Sunna, Allah is not obliged to accept repentance, even if its preconditions are met, but He does accept it as a mark of Noble generosity from Him, and as a gracious favor. Our knowledge of its acceptance is based on the sacred Law and the consensus, is it is not in doubt, as it is clearly stated in the Book, in His saying:

And He it is who accepts repentance from His servants,

And pardons evil deeds,

And He knows what you are doing (42:25)